How can you reconcile yourself with the lives you will never lead, with possibilities foreclosed, and with nostalgia for lost youth? How can you accept the failings of the past, the sense of futility in the tasks that consume the present, and the prospect of death that blights the future? In this self-help book with a difference, Kieran Setiya confronts the inevitable challenges of adulthood and middle age, showing how philosophy can help you thrive.
You will learn why missing out might be a good thing, how options are overrated, and when you should be glad you made a mistake. You will be introduced to philosophical consolations for mortality. And you will learn what it would mean to live in the present, how it could solve your midlife crisis, and why meditation helps.
Ranging from Aristotle, Schopenhauer, and John Stuart Mill to Virginia Woolf and Simone de Beauvoir, as well as drawing on Setiya’s own experience, Midlife combines imaginative ideas, surprising insights, and practical advice. Writing with wisdom and wit, Setiya makes a wry but passionate case for philosophy as a guide to life.
Key Lessons from Midlife by Kieran Setiya:
Midlife Crisis is an Opportunity for Growth: Midlife struggles aren’t just setbacks; they offer a chance to reassess priorities, find purpose, and deepen self-understanding.
Embrace Life’s Imperfections: Accept that no life is without regrets or mistakes. Learning to live with imperfection helps cultivate resilience and contentment.
Focus on the Present, Not Just the Future: The pursuit of future goals can overshadow the importance of enjoying the present moment. Engage in activities that bring joy and fulfillment now.
Shift from Achievement to Fulfillment: Reframe success as living meaningfully rather than chasing external achievements. Focus on intrinsic rewards over extrinsic validation.
Find Joy in the Process: Life isn’t just about reaching milestones; it’s about appreciating the journey. Value the act of doing rather than the end results.
Acknowledge Mortality Without Fear: Confronting the reality of mortality can inspire you to live more intentionally, fostering gratitude and purpose.
Cultivate Compassion and Connection: Strengthen relationships and build a community around you. Shared experiences and emotional bonds bring lasting satisfaction.
Reframe Regrets as Lessons: Instead of dwelling on past mistakes, view them as learning opportunities that shape your present and future.
Balance Work and Leisure: A fulfilling life requires a balance between productive work and restorative leisure. Prioritize activities that nurture your mental and emotional well-being.
Philosophy as a Guide to Life: Philosophy isn’t just theoretical—it’s practical. Use philosophical insights to navigate challenges and find meaning in everyday life.
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